Slow ripening and rapid flowering alternate. One is not superior to the other. Be not concerned with pace, be concerned with depth. Worries about progress are for children.
As Venus within Eros does not really aim at pleasure, so Eros does not aim at happiness. We may think he does, but when he is brought to the test it proves otherwise… For it is the very mark of Eros that when he is in us we had rather share unhappiness with the Beloved than be happy on any other terms.
[H]iding how you really feel and trying to make everyone happy doesn’t make you nice, it just makes you a liar.